Hi @Jacqueline562
Sorry to hear in this situation. I wouldn't have told her that she needs to ask if she wanted to drink my alcohol. I would have told her that if she wants to have a drink then she needs to purchase her own and a hosts alcohol and other personal items are strictly off limits.
If you feel uncomfortable and unsafe (has she been verbally abusive or has she threatened physical abuse) with this guest, then call Airbnb and ask them to cancel the booking.
I agree with other hosts that it is useful to follow up your reminder to the guest in person, that she shouldn't have taken your alcohol on Airbnb messaging.