@David1388 - sorry you found it difficult. We're other hosts here and we could possibly help if you had a specific question but if you'd rather just leave feedback for Airbnb, you can do that here:
https://www.airbnb.ca/help/feedback
If you are looking for help with SMS messages, it seems like your wife's phone number went through just fine. https://www.airbnb.com/help/article/277/how-do-i-verify-my-phone-number?topic=356. You can also use the "call back" option. You might also want to check your phone that you allow for text messages from phone numbers not in your contact list.
If you are looking for how to check your reservations, you can look for those here:
https://www.airbnb.com/help/article/234/i-m-a-guest--how-do-i-check-the-status-of-my-reservation
Not sure what you spent money on with Airbnb if the reservation was never accepted.
https://www.airbnb.com/help/article/92/when-am-i-charged-for-a-reservation
You should feel safe in providing your information to verify you. Here's some details about that process.
https://www.airbnb.com/help/article/1237/how-does-providing-identification-on-airbnb-work?topic=356
https://www.airbnb.com/help/article/4/how-does-airbnb-help-build-trust-between-hosts-and-guests