@Ros0
(I hadn't checked to see if you were a host, so could have saved myself the detailed explanation you know anyway, haha!)
Yes, does sound strange. I know I never get any message triggered by somebody just looking (that would be kind of creepy!)
There seem to be loads of hosts who are bad communicators, so maybe there was something about you that intimidated them.... like being afraid to host a fellow host, go figure... and 'not available' simply meant not available to you. Although when you're really picky that would be completely against ABB's anti-discrimination policy. Sounds like it will remain a mystery and you probably dodged a bullet 🙂
Good that you found a better alternative!